I have been a stay at home mom for over a year. Having worked for so long, I always considered myself to be a working mother, but now I can say I finally feel like a SAHM. Before staying home with my children I was director of a daycare. I was able to bring my son with me, which was wonderful. When I became pregnant again I became a stay at home mom. I was extremely nervous, because I just was not sure I would be able to do it (and do it well). I thought I had to be a super mom, but all I had to be was a regular mom to my children. They did not seem to need the super part.
Here are the pros and cons of both (in my opinion):
-I felt independent and had a sense of pride in my work.
-I always had something to talk about.
– My children had a role model that worked hard and did not fit a “men work and women stay home” stereotype.
-I was always meeting new people.
-I worked long hours at work.
-Even after working all day I still had to come home and take care of the house and children.
-It was near impossible staying up all night with a sick child and having to be ready for work and out the door by 6:30am.
-My children had to work around my schedule.
-We often had to rush at the end of the night to fit everything in (bedtime story, baths, etc.).
-My son had to travel with me for over an hour a day.
-I was often tired by 8pm.
Stay At Home Mom
-I work around my children’s schedules.
-I have more than enough time to be with my children, clean, and do other activities.
-I get to see every milestone, sporting game, and class party.
-My son no longer has a long commute.
-I no longer worry about dressing up for work.
-I do not have to worry about outside childcare.
-Sometimes an entire day has gone by and I have not spoken to one adult.
-Children can be very demanding and often I forget about myself.
-It can be very boring even when you have a million things to accomplish.
-I’m often very lonely.
If I had to decide right now whether to go back to work or stay at home, I would be torn. My older son loves that I am home, but he also loved preschool and playing with other children. Getting to be there when my youngest rolled over and crawled for the first time was a privilege. I know that many men and women do not get to see that, so I do no take it lightly. I still do not know which I would prefer!
What has your experiences been? Have you both stayed home and worked as a parent? Which did you prefer?