If loving you is wrong,
I don’t wanna be right!
When parents tell me that they do not want their babies to have a pacifier I weep inside. Why? The pacifier is a magical, wonderful invention that my oldest used every day until he was about 2 years old. He and his binky had a passionate affair and he went everywhere with it. It helped him sleep. It calmed him down. He liked it. Pacifiers have also been known to reduce SIDS and decrease stress in babies. That does not sound like a bad thing.
In fairness, the pacifier has some down sides as well. Studies have shown that it increases the chance of ear infections, and might damage your child’s teeth (depending on how long you use it).
When I first brought home my oldest, Max, he had a hard time falling asleep. When I introduced the binky, it helped immensely. It calmed him enough to lay in his crib and fall asleep. Later when he attended daycare it was a wonderful tool to help him adjust.
I know the biggest complaint is how to wean your child off of the pacifier. I have to say for a boy who was in love with it, I had no troubles taking it away. I did it slowly, giving it to him less and less. If he asked I tried to distract him with toys and stories. In the beginning it might work, it might not work; but, by the end it worked every time. Soon the binky was a thing of the past.
Suggestions on what NOT to do to wean your child (after working in daycare for years I met parents who did the following)
-Do NOT leave it out for Santa to take. We want Santa to be a good guy.
-Do NOT leave it for other babies. If you decide to have another baby you might be creating animosity to new baby brother or sister.
-Do NOT take it away cold turkey. I have never met a child who was able to handle cold turkey. It often makes them want it more.
-Do NOT take it away because they have been bad. When you finally take it away for good, your child will think they are bad.
My youngest son has refused the binky. Where Max loved it beyond belief, Lucas hates it with all of his heart. When I would attempt to give it to him, he would purse his lips together and give me the stink eye!
All I can say is HEART BROKEN! I was heart broken! There would be no more love affairs with the pacifier in this house. I did not press it. I was fully accepting of his request, but it came with some downsides. He had a hard time falling asleep at night. He wanted to eat ALL THE TIME! My poor boobs! He seemed like he was always trying to get comfortable, but just could not quite get there.
Once he was able to sit up right and roll back to front/front to back I tried a lovey. A lovey is a doll used as a security tool for your baby. I started to incorporate it into our night-time routine. It gave him something to focus on and hold. It is still a work in progress, but it is definitely working. Right now I am currently looking for a second lovey. This way if I lose it I will have a back up and while I wash one, I can still use the other.
Good bye, binky! It was quite a ride! Hopefully, my next love affair will be with Lucas’ lovey (we named him Monkey).
- Soothe Your Baby with a Difrax Pacifier (homemom3.com)
- Licking your baby’s dirty pacifier could reduce allergies (newsfixnow.com)
- Pacifier decisions. (loveandbabydream.wordpress.com)